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THE QUESTION :

I have a 10-month-old, and she wakes up at 6:30 every morning, extremely active and ready to crawl around and play. I have a very hard time going to bed at the same time she does, and I don't get much sleep. When she wakes up early, I feel automatically angry and impatient. I've tried to put her in her playpen so I can lie back down, but she'll scream for me until I take her out of it. I feel like I'm not being fair to her, but I also feel like I'm having the life sucked out of me at the same time. Please help.
 

THE ANSWER:

I'm sorry you have an early riser, and I know it's exhausting, but 6:30 is when some children wake up. While you can try black-out curtains, an earlier or later bedtime, and even ignoring the crying, it may not make much difference. She's had a full night of sleep and now it is morning and that means playtime! As my son says, "The world is bright. Get up!"

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Tanya Remer Altmann
THE QUESTION :

My 8-month-old is fussy all the time. He won't play with any of his toys, he hates his bouncy chair and won't let me put him in his playpen. As soon as I pick him up, he's fine, but I can't hold him all the time. I'm exhausted and confused and have no family or friends in the area. He fights everything, including baths and diaper changes. How can I help him--and myself?
 

THE ANSWER:

First, if he hasn't seen his pediatrician lately, consider going in for a visit just to make sure he is growing and developing well, and that nothing is causing him discomfort (like an ear infection). Next, you need and deserve a break ASAP, so that you don't end up even more frustrated and exhausted. Enlist your spouse, partner or get a babysitter or mommy-helper so you can have some quiet time to do whatever will help you feel better.

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Tanya Remer Altmann
THE QUESTION :

My daughter is 2, and we are traveling to Mexico in a couple of weeks. I have never flown with her before, and I am very nervous about it. Is there anything that I should do to prepare before we leave?
 

THE ANSWER:

Depending on where you live, you might be able to visit a children's museum with a mock plane so your child can see what the process is like. At a minimum, you might try a trial run to the airport so she can see the hustle and bustle of the security process, the crowds, the lines etc.

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Marilyn Augustyn
THE QUESTION :

My 6-year-old son has been sleepwalking, and it scares me. Will he grow out of this? Also, does it mean that he's stressed or upset? He has no recollection of it the next morning. What can I do to help him?
 

THE ANSWER:

Sleepwalking is common, especially in kids ages 4 to 8. We don't know what causes sleepwalking, but it does tend to run in families.

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Tanya Remer Altmann
THE QUESTION :

My 3-year-old is about to start pre-K but I'm so worried about his behavior. I'm a stay-at-home mom and he's never really been around kids his own age. The only other kids around are my 16- and 13-year-old brother and sister, and he's picked up some of their habits. He calls people "brats" and tells them they "have issues." When I tell him how painful those words can be, he just laughs. I'm worried that this is my fault because I didn't stop his behavior soon enough. How can I get my "baby" to act like a baby -- and not like a 16-year-old?
 

THE ANSWER:

Exposure, exposure, exposure. Kids are outstanding imitators. They imitate whatever they see, whether it's positive, negative or neutral.

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Marilyn Augustyn
THE QUESTION :

My 16-month-old son just started attending a big daycare center. I expected him to get sick from the other kids, but he came home on his first day with a stuffy nose that has transformed into diarrhea and vomiting. How can I protect him from getting sick like this all the time?
 

THE ANSWER:

Healthy children can catch around 10 infections a year--almost one a month! This is especially true when they are in daycare. During the summer months kids are mostly well, but during the winter, they may get sick every other week. Why? Because children constantly touch things and viruses can live on toys and surfaces for hours.

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Tanya Remer Altmann
THE QUESTION :

I have an 8-year-old son who is very imaginative and shy. He has type 1 diabetes. We recently relocated, and he's having a hard time making new friends. He cries because no one calls for play dates. Unfortunately, this was also the case in our old town. How can I get him to socialize without looking like I'm pushing him on other kids? I don't know what to tell him -- and it breaks my heart.
 

THE ANSWER:

To quote Kevin Arnold from The Wonder Years, "Who you are in fifth grade is who everybody else in fifth grade says you are." That's a harsh reality of middle childhood, and you are so right when you point out that friendship is critically important to an 8-year-old.

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Marilyn Augustyn
THE QUESTION :

We have a new baby at home, we moved last month, and I think all the changes are taking a toll on my older child. She has been toilet-trained since before she was 2-years-old, but lately she's been having lots of accidents. She doesn't go to the bathroom when she needs to, constantly waiting until it's too late. Our doctor recommended using pull-ups but my daughter was really sad about it, so I decided to stop. What can I do to help her?
 

THE ANSWER:

A new baby and a new house -- wow. Your daughter's life was recently turned upside-down. It's not surprising that she's having accidents. That's a normal reaction at this age.

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Tanya Remer Altmann
THE QUESTION :

My 4-year-old recently stopped wanting to participate in karate after loving it for more than two months. He says he's afraid, although he can't say what he is afraid of. Just one day before this began, I lost him for moments in a store and he was obviously upset. What can I do to help him?
 

THE ANSWER:

Fear is an intrinsic human emotion -- a vestige of our days as cave people when fear was critical to survival. In many cases, that is still true today: fear protects us from many risks. That said, it's important to differentiate a fear from a phobia.

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THE QUESTION :

My 11-year-old really wants to start shaving. She's Hispanic, Italian and Portuguese, and she does have dark hair on her upper lip, and very hairy legs and eyebrows. She has not started her period yet. What is the best way to handle this?
 

THE ANSWER:

There is no "right" answer to this question -- only the one that fits your family's needs and beliefs. Many girls will start to experience darkening and coarsening of their hair sometime between the ages of 10 and 13, with lots of cultural variation. In the melting pot that we've become in the U.S., this is now even harder to predict.

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