Sorry to hear about your situation and your dad's failing health. Being the primary caregiver for your father, in addition to your own family, has stressed you physically, emotionally and even socially. As a caregiver, you have the obligation to take care of yourself, not just for your own sake, but also because you can't be a good caregiver unless you are healthy in body, mind and spirit.
Unfortunately, because there is too much to do and so many things beyond your control, guilt is the primary emotion involved in caregiving. Let go of the guilt that's beating you up; it serves no useful purpose.
But do recognize the type of guilt that can be used as your impetus to change something. And you really do need to change something: You are on the road to "caregiver burnout."
Some ideas:
· Seek out a professional to help you obtain additional resources.
· Take a realistic view of your situation. Accept the situations you can't change, and begin changing those that you can.
· Set reasonable limits for yourself on how much you are capable of doing. Don't be afraid to ask for, and accept, help from others.
· Practice wellness behaviors that help maintain your health and well-being, such as regular exercise and meditation.
· Join a support group, or enlist a few close, trusted friends with whom you can share your feelings and discuss your concerns.
Not only do you deserve "me" time, you absolutely need it!
Natalie Gahrmann
Title
Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section | Expert Section
