Still, I'm well aware that my husband, Nick, needs attention, and affection from the woman he loves, just as much as my children need it from their momI also know that after 11 years of marriage--with its routines and its challenges--I feel so much more connected to Nick when we remind each other that beyond taking care of our family together, we are husband and wife, man and woman, still attractive and desirable and hot in each other's eyes.

Now, we're not spending every waking moment dipping behind closed doors to get it on; life happens and you do get tired--other things do take priority. But it's still possible to give each other those simple "you're hot" reminders to keep your minds on one another. Borrow a few of the things I do for my husband to keep it spicy:

1. Give him a flirty phone call, email, or text. He sure won't be thinking of the other ladies at the office if he's got a sexy note reminding him what he's got waiting back at home.

2. Whisper in his ear that if he gets the kids to bed early, you two can "play." You'll be amazed at how much more energy you have when someone else handles the nighttime routine and you can start "playing" a little earlier in the evening.

3. Stop him mid-sentence with a long, deep kiss--the kind you used to give him when you were dating. Nothing says "you're hot" better than a little tongue.

4. Take a walk with the kids after dinner, and hold his hand in yours. It's still romantic to take a stroll together, even if the children are tottering behind you.

5. Play a naughty game together. See who can toss the socks into the laundry basket; you miss, you strip off a piece of clothing.

None of these suggestions are expensive or hard to do. All you need is a little enthusiasm--the one thing that probably attracted your husband to you. He'll be grateful, and in the end, so will you.