It's not surprising that you continue to struggle with this decision -- as your child moves through each developmental phase, both of you will continue to negotiate how you balance decisions at any given point. Here's a tip: when you are with your child, really be WITH your child. Shut off your cell phone, turn off your ipod and just enjoy the time together.

Make sure you take every possible opportunity to spend that quality time with your baby. Truly being present with your child is the most important thing -- more important than the number of hours you spend together. (Remember that you're not alone with this dilemma -- a good place to learn about other families' struggles and resolutions is the Families and Work Instititute.) Good luck!