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When I had my second child, I was positive that it was going to be a girl. Or rather I was HOPING that it was going to be a girl. But I ended up having two boys. Though I've tried to blur the gender identities to some degree--let's face it, my sons would rather play with action figures instead of baby dolls, and are able to turn anything into a weapon, even a pillow. I often mourn the loss of my unborn girl, and think of the things I won't have the opportunity to do:
1. I won't get to buy the cute clothes with the beautiful stitching and embroidery.
2. I won't get to play dress up with her: try on frilly dresses and high heels, and experiment with make-up.
3. I won't be able to get manicures with her.
4. I won't get to decorate her room with flowers and butterflies.
5. I won't get to buy a doll at American Girl Place or take her to the cafe (I know it's cheesy, but still).
6. I won't be able to buy a tutu or knit her a poncho.
7. I won't get to play with dolls with her and have tea parties.
8. I won't get to braid or curl her hair.
9. I won't get to help her shop for a prom or wedding dress.
10. I won't be able to see her become a woman and have her own children one day.
I try to remind myself that I'm saving lots of money, that I'm spared of the excess of pink and purple, and the Princesses marketing blitz, and the worry that comes with adolescence. Somehow, I have to get excited about stripes (in boys' clothes), and work on my battling skills. And live vicariously through my friends' experiences with their girls.
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I know how you feel. I'm expecting my second right now and I know my son would enjoy a brother, but I want to play dress-up!
It may seem bleak, but the reality is no where near the dream. I have a boy and a girl. My daughter doesn't like frills, she has to pick out her own clothes, the dress up phase is long gone, she wants to put on make up with out me, she doesn't let me braid her hair, the American Girl doll is just expensive, she thinks the poncho I bought is stupid.
Just to let you know she is only 5. My son never threw a tantrum over his shoes.
Boys do play dress up, they just use household items.
I know just how you feel! But if he's still young (under 3), you can have a little fun. I confess that I dressed up my youngest boy in dresses and bows every now and then for fun. The ladies at the mall would fawn over him and say what a pretty girl he was! I could hardly keep from laughing out loud! But, sadly it all ended. He's all boy now. My oldest was a girl for halloween last year and I secretly enjoyed helping him get all dolled up -- I even took him to a thrift store for a dress and shoes! Oh, for a daughter!!!!